While we typically write blog posts about law-related issues, we wanted to just post a quick commentary on what we have observed lately.
I was sitting at lunch the other day and looked up at a party of six waiting to be seated. What immediately struck me was that all six individuals were intently looking down at their cellphones, not making any attempt to interact with one another or those around them.
Before you ask or say it to yourself, yes, I am probably old and being silly. You may also say, “But that’s just the ways things are these days.”
That certainly may be the case, but is not a way of life that we can’t try to change, a change that must occur before all verbal communication and human interaction basically ceases to exist on a day-to-day basis.
Even in the law profession and other business entities, the cell phone and email have drastically cut back on actual verbal communication and eye-to-eye contact, and this is just in the last five years. Not too long ago, a case was negotiated by meeting with your adversary and negotiating a case using your emotions and verbalization. Unfortunately, a great number of negotiations are now conducted through email, removing the emotional side of your client’s case.
Businesses will adapt, but where I’m sincerely afraid we will see technology have a negative impact is on marriages. While that may benefit divorce lawyers out there, it will also destroy many lives. As the father of children, I’m amazed at the lack of verbal communication children have these days. Everything is conducted through email, messaging, Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Without question, this lack of human interaction and verbal communication is going to lead to a rise in divorces.
As of 2016, according to The American Psychological Association, approximately 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Think about that number and whether there will be an increase in divorce for people that met and communicated with one another primarily through his or her cellphone. You can meet your spouse online through Match.com, EHarmony or even Tinder, but if you don’t get to know your partner through actual conversation, I don’t believe you will be able to solve problems that inevitably arise in every marriage.
Technology today makes it too easy to go online and say what you want, feelings you probably would not otherwise express to that person during a normal face-to-face conversation. In my experience as an attorney, face-to-face interaction brings about the more polite and caring side of a person, whereas posting from a computer takes away and falsely limits the responsibility of your words.
This is one topic I hope I am wrong about and pray the importance of marriage thrives in the future. I’m sure there will be ways to communicate that we cannot presently fathom, I’m just hoping it doesn’t totally nullify human interaction.
If we could learn to verbally communicate, face-to-face, and make a conscious effort to increase human interaction, I believe a lot of the world’s problems can be helped, including divorces.
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